Love Roots in Earliest Infancy

ScienceDaily (Dec. 14, 2011) — The ability to trust, love, and resolve conflict with loved ones starts in childhood — way earlier than you may think. That is one message of a new review of the literature in Current Directions in Psychological Science, a journal published by the Association for Psychological Science. "Your interpersonal experiences … Continue reading

Male and Female Rape Victims Have Similar Experiences

Amanda Marcotte Tracy Clark-Flory at Salon starts off her blog post about female-on-male rape with a reference to this story about a man named Kris Bucher, who is contesting the state of Michigan’s demands that he pay child support to his high school girlfriend, Jessica Fuller, because, he claims, she conceived their son Joshua by … Continue reading

Does Absence Actually Make the Heart Grow Fonder?

Jessica Grose Is time apart good for relationships?For the past decade, Iris Krasnow has spent the month of July apart from her husband of 23 years, Chuck. For most of those summers, she was a counselor at a summer camp in the Adirondacks, where her sons were campers. Since their kids left home, Krasnow and … Continue reading

Love hurts so bad, but feels so good

Catherine de Lange, reporter When you think of something that’s terribly painful, what first springs to mind? For many, it’s the excruciating torment of a broken heart. But as television presenter Michael Moseley said in the BBC documentary "Pleasure and Pain" last night – despite the pain, we always come back for more. So why … Continue reading

I’m Married But Still a Virgin

We haven’t consummated our marriage Photo: Gregg Delman Dear E. Jean: I’ve been married four months, and I’m still a virgin. Every time I try to initiate something, my husband won’t allow me to take off my bra or panties. My job is to satisfy him with oral sex, and that’s it. I’ve tried showing … Continue reading

Find Your Mate with Attachment Theory

A version of attachment theory, better known for parent-child bonding, can teach us adults a lot about forming more enduring romantic relationships. We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some relationships sail … Continue reading

Science Explains Why Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

by Valerie Ross Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University in New Brunswick, New Jersey, knows all about love. She has observed the brain regions associated with romantic love light up as a man gazes at his inamorata, both in new relationships and in decades-long marriages. Fisher seems to have become a bit jaded … Continue reading

Boy meets girl: How Facebook functions in modern romance

Brenna Ehrlich "Teens are incredibly social, and Facebook plays a huge role in their love lives," says Ann Shoket, editor-in-chief of "Seventeen." There’s no denying that Facebook has had an impact on the way the younger set flirt, fall in love and break up. Now, Seventeen magazine has released a study that depicts just what … Continue reading

Shared talking styles herald new and lasting romance

In dating game, conversationally aligned players often pair up Bruce Bower  A subtle, surprisingly mundane type of banter lies at the heart of romance. Love’s flames get fanned when a man and woman similarly employ words such as I, it, but and under in everyday conversations, a new study suggests. Conversation partners’ related use of … Continue reading

All the Single Ladies (and Men) Deserve a Break

Why the conversation about love between black women and men needs a new focus. Kellee Terrell  Last week, more hoopla around unmarried black women dominated the media — again. The Associated Press reported that according to government statistics, in 2008 72 percent of African-American children were born to unwed black mothers. Even though the author, … Continue reading

Self Awareness Can Help People Navigate Rocky Seas of Relationships

A little self-awareness can help people struggling in the world of relationships, says Jeffrey Hall, assistant professor of communication studies at the University of Kansas. He identified five styles of flirting: physical, traditional, polite, sincere and playful. Physical flirting involves the expression of sexual interest in a potential partner. People who scored high in this … Continue reading

Telltale Heart: Word Association Test Reveals if Love Will Last

A test of hidden attitudes predicts relationship decay By Siri Carpenter Sometimes it’s easy to tell when a romantic relationship is about to take a dive. It doesn’t bode well if you would rather sort socks than go out on a date or if neither of you can think of much to say. Another bad … Continue reading

Size Matters

Everything about the man I’m dating is perfect—except his microscopic member. Dear Prudie, I am a 30-year-old woman who has been dating a lovely man for three months. He’s smart, funny, cute, and kind. I’ve felt so lucky to have found him. Here’s the problem: We recently became intimate for the first time, and he … Continue reading

Betweeen Ankara and Brussels

by Steven Cook, Senior Fellow There has been a lot in the news recently about Turkey’s identity. Has Turkey been “lost”? is a question that people in Washington have been asking a lot recently. The answer is no, but Ankara’s traditional relationships are changing. This has prompted me to think about the European Union—passé, I … Continue reading

Making scents of a partner’s feelings

Couples pick up on subtle differences in other half’s emotion-laden odors By Bruce Bower BOSTON — Close romantic partners unknowingly smell each other’s feelings of happiness, fear and sexual arousal, according to a study presented on May 29 at the Association for Psychological Science annual convention. “Familiarity with a partner enhances detection of emotional cues … Continue reading

Getting to not know you

Young couples are better than long-term partners at discerning each other’s preferences By Bruce Bower  BASEL, Switzerland — Long-lasting marriages may thrive on love, compromise and increasing ignorance about one another. Couples married for an average of 40 years know less about one another’s food, movie and kitchen-design preferences than do partners who have been … Continue reading

Student Surveys Contradict Claims of Evolved Sex Differences

New data is undermining the evidence that has long been proposed to support the eager males—choosy females paradigm By JR Minkel Image: iStockPhoto For more than three decades evolutionary psychologists have advanced a simple theory of human sexuality: because men invest less reproductive effort in sperm than women do in eggs, men’s and women’s brains … Continue reading

The Science of a Good Marriage

By Robert Epstein. For Better: The Science of a Good Marriage by Tara Parker-Pope. Penguin Group, 2010 After her own 17-year marriage went bust, New York Times health blogger Tara Parker-Pope embarked on a new quest: to see what scientific research has to say about making marriage work. In her new book, she takes us … Continue reading

I Love Him, I Love Him Not

Researchers adapt a test for unconscious bias to tap secrets of the heart By Anthony G. Greenwald Over a decade ago, I devised a test for detecting attitudes and biases operating below the level of a person’s awareness. Known as the Implicit Association Test, or IAT, it is presently the most widely used of the … Continue reading