Parents’ Porn Fears Exaggerated

Access to online pornography is changing the way young people learn about sex, a trend that has many parents worried. But German experts believe many of their fears are unfounded. Instead of trying to prevent porn consumption, parents should focus on teaching healthy sexual values, they say.

Nicola Abé

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Carl was 13 the first time he watched porn. His best friend showed him a video on the website Youporn that showed a woman being penetrated inside a tent. The boys giggled a bit, finding the situation embarrassing.

A couple weeks later, Carl decided he needed his own Internet connection. Until then, he’d only been allowed to surf the Web in his mother’s study, where anyone could interrupt him at any time. So he got hold of a WiFi stick and started watching porn several times a week. The videos he watched taught him that women moan like crazy and are always aroused, and he found them very beautiful. Carl himself had not yet kissed a girl.

These days, it’s almost impossible for parents to prevent their children from learning about sex long before they have their own sexual experiences. Ninety-eight percent of adolescents have Internet access. They have profiles on Facebook, they flirt in chat rooms, and they watch porn. Nearly half of all 13-year-olds have seen a pornographic video; for 14- to 17-year-olds, it’s almost 80 percent.

The World Wide Web has transformed teenage culture, and it defines the topics parents need to talk with their children about. And we’re not just talking about the birds and the bees anymore; we’re talking about frank discussions of sex in general, including pornography.

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